The good, the bad and the ugly. When you hear this you may think back to a timeless 1960’s spaghetti Western film with this title. Or simply the phrase itself that has come into popularity as a way to express a situation with a variety of emotions. My focus is the latter.
Throughout my experience with my quest to find the culprit behind my missing Tinder identity, I was faced with a variety of responses regarding my situation. Some good, some bad and some very ugly.
As soon as my blog post caught wind, I began receiving a great deal of information and feedback from people across the country. Many people reached out to me with helpful material, one especially who provided me a previous conversation between him and “Kim” that I posted on my second blog post about my stolen Tinder identity. Even more people sent me emails, Facebook messages, tweets and texts telling me that a similar situation had happened to them and they didn’t know what to do about it. They sent me kind words of good luck and best wishes in finding the impostor.
It was refreshing to know that I was not the only one out there who has had their pictures taken and created into a fake social media account. Most people don’t do anything about it or just simply contact the site to shut down the account. But, my unique approach raised attention because I was confronting the issue head-on rather than simply defaulting to a common solution.
Then, there was the bad and the ugly. People attacked my blog with mean, aggressive comments describing me in inappropriate ways when they have never even met me.
As you can see, most of the comments shot missiles at the angle of “you should’ve known that your pictures were going to get stolen when you put them on the Internet…”. Yes, I am aware that when I upload a photograph to a social media site that it is on the Internet for the public to see. But, does that make it okay for people to steal my pictures and pose as me when in reality it is someone else behind the screen? No, it doesn’t. And, this is why in all of my blog posts and interviews I said that I am in no way angry at the person who took my cyber identity, rather just curious as to who is behind the account and what that person’s end goal was.
An interesting aspect about the negative comments was that I was not in any way offended by any of them. Most had grammatical or punctuation mistakes which clearly demonstrate a lack of intelligence, so their opinion is obviously one of lesser educational value. Also, most of the people who commented negative thoughts clearly did not read my blog posts enough to actually know my story or situation accurately enough to criticize it.
My suggestion on commenting on blog posts is, think before you type. Ask yourself if you know enough about the topic or situation that you feel as though you can successfully criticize someone else’s work.
Because, most of the time, you probably cannot.